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#1   Today, 12:32 pm

Layp3rs0n Regular Member   Join Date: April 1, 2008 Posts: 795 Religion: Catholic

Made a bad Confession I was convicted of a possible mortal sin last minute in Confession. Upon realizing it I panicked. I realized, I was unrepentant. I could not bring myself to want or will to give it up. The priest finished the words of absolution and I felt my heart break. I am so distressed right now. You know what? Here is the sin I realized. I often visit my girlfriend at her house. We snuggle up and watch tv then I go home. Chastity for me has mostly been easy for me lately. I have little to no problems telling myself no. For her, I think it is more difficult. I am sure she feels tempted by my presence. In other words, I am occasionally a near occasion to her, as she has admitted to wanting to "make out" and stuff. I am guilty of being unwilling to repent of this in the confessional. I love seeing her. She often cooks meals for me. When I am with her at her house I feel at home. I rarely feel that way. But I still committed sacrilege and feel destitute in spirit now. I want to be able to visit my girlfriend and not tempt her or cause her thoughts to stir. Because I feel so torn I feel worthless. A terrible servant of God. Help. __________________ It is a good thing we have Apostolic Tradition backing up the fourth Marian dogma...otherwise it would only be a matter of Assumption.

#2   Today, 12:53 pm

JimR-OCDS Veteran Member   Join Date: April 7, 2006 Posts: 11,290 Religion: Catholic

Re: Made a bad Confession I fail to see where you sinned ? Making out with your girlfriend isn't a sin, unless it involves sex. Even having the desire to have a sexual relationship with her, isn't a sin, it's part of your biology. Having sex outside of marriage of course is a sin, but that's not what you're telling us in your post. I think you need to be careful about becoming scrupulous. Jim __________________ "God can not be grasped except through love."

#3   Today, 1:35 pm

Ad Orientem Regular Member   Join Date: February 22, 2013 Posts: 902 Religion: Catholic

Re: Made a bad Confession Quote: Originally Posted by JimR-OCDS Making out with your girlfriend isn't a sin, unless it involves sex. I'm sorry, but that is incorrect. Jesus said it is possible to commit a mortal sin with as much as a lustful look (cf. Matt. 5). Granted, not everyone is full of lust when they kiss someone, but "making out" -- at least as I understand the term -- goes way beyond a mere show of affection. It is one thing to have natural desires; quite another deliberately to arouse and to place one another in near occasions of sin. Okay, don't be scrupulous -- you don't have to over-analyze every time you look at your girlfriend and think she's pretty. It's okay to be human. But don't throw caution to the wind ("If it's not sex it's okay.")

#4   Today, 1:37 pm

JimR-OCDS Veteran Member   Join Date: April 7, 2006 Posts: 11,290 Religion: Catholic

Re: Made a bad Confession Quote: Originally Posted by Ad Orientem I'm sorry, but that is incorrect. Jesus said it is possible to commit a mortal sin with as much as a lustful look (cf. Matt. 5). Granted, not everyone is full of lust when they kiss someone, but "making out" -- at least as I understand the term -- goes way beyond a mere show of affection. It is one thing to have natural desires; quite another deliberately to arouse and to place one another in near occasions of sin. Okay, don't be scrupulous -- you don't have to over-analyze every time you look at your girlfriend and think she's pretty. It's okay to be human. But don't throw caution to the wind ("If it's not sex it's okay.") Looking lustfully at another married woman, is what Jesus was talking about, not being affectionate with one's girl friend who could one day become his wife. What you're saying could cause a person to become psychotic as they inordinately suppress their natural desires. Sexual desire is part of our biology, along with the desire to show and feel affection with a potential mate. Making out without sex or inappropriate touching is not sinful in the least. Jim __________________ "God can not be grasped except through love."